The lake looked at the mountain and thought, oh fortunate mountain,
rising so high, while I must lie so low. You look far out across the
world and take part in many interesting happenings while I can only
lie still. How I wish I were a mountain. The mountain looked at the
lake and thought, oh fortunate late, lying so close to the
warm-breasted earth, while I loom here craggy, cold, and
uncomfortable. You are always so peaceful while I am constantly
having to battle howling storm and blazing sun. How I wish I were a
lake. All the time, quietly, the mountain was coming down in silver
streams to run into the lake, and the lake was rising as silver mists
to fall as snow upon the mountain.
You know, the grass always looks greener on the other side, doesn't
it? So many times in my life, I have had a few different heroes,
growing up and to the present. I remember one of my first heroes was
Captain America, the Sha-zam guy — I can't remember his name —
and Oh Mighty Isis. And then later on, the Lone Ranger and then
Superman, Spiderman, the Incredible Hulk. And then as I grew up,
certain — well, you know actually Jimmy Carter was one of my heroes
and Al Gore and eventually Thich Nhat Hanh, Mother Theresa, and
several others.
And of course, as I began to practice in the sanghas, I could see some
of my brothers and sisters who were my peers who seemed to be able to
concentrate better than me or were more happy and at peace with
themselves than me, or who understood very complex ideas better than
me. So, sometimes I would feel that — it depended on the
person. Sometimes I felt this great admiration like, they're so
wonderful. I wish I could be like that. Or sometimes there would be
a feeling of jealousy. But both admiration and jealousy have their
shadow sides — not just jealousy, but also admiration if the
admiration prevents you from seeing your own worth, your own beauty,
your own radiance.
The mountain wished it could be a lake. The lake wished it could be a
mountain. Yet the mountain was coming down in silver streams to run
into the lake, and the lake was rising as silver mist to fall as snow
on the mountain. We interare, so what we admire in others is actually
something that is pointing to a beauty that is also in us, and what we
are so fond of in ourselves is also in others, whether in potential or
manifestation.
A lot of the times in my own practice, I've gotten very judgmental and
critical of myself. I'm not growing as fast as this person. I'm not
gaining insight as fast as that person, and I still do that from time
to time, but there was a moment when I had an awakening glimpse,
experience of my true nature, when all that vanished, and I had a deep
realization, not just in my head, but in my whole being that there
will never be anyone in the whole universe that will be exactly like
me, that my way of showing up in the world is absolutely unique, that
this particular body/mind expression of Buddha nature is wondrously
one of a kind. Not only me, but every single one of you, every being
in the universe. And so if that's true, there's no place for
comparison any more, because you're the only you there is, which means
you are the best you there is. And no matter how convoluted or
dramatic your story seems to be as it unfolds, that is the beauty of
who you are.
The Buddha wasn't the Buddha in one night. The Buddha had his journey
from a prince to a seeker to a meditator to enlightened one, and then
to compassionate teacher, and so forth. And of course, if you believe
in reincarnation, his path began much earlier in the many lives
before, and even if you don't believe in reincarnation, we have past
lives because all of our parents and our cultures and the evolution of
our planet have taken place to make this life possible. If there was
any one moment or day or month or year missing from the Buddha's
journey of enlightenment, you take that away, there's no
enlightenment. You see? You take away that, you chop it off, there's
no way for him to journey forward on the path of enlightenment.
So, even in the same way, there may be days when we wish, oh, I just
don't like my life right now. I don't like where I'm at right now. I
don't like the way I am right now. My encouragement to you is on
those days, remember what I'm saying today, that you are a beautiful
being, radiant and unique, and those days are all part of the journey
that makes you a Buddha. Don't take any of those — if you took
any past lifetime away from the Buddha's journey or any day or month
or year or even one moment, you're breaking the path. All of those
events all added to the enriching manifestation of Siddhartha Gautama
and his particular way of showing up as a Buddha, but you are also a
Buddha on your path to Buddhahood. You're a baby Buddha on the path
to becoming mature Buddha, and your path is beautiful and unique and
special. It's your path. So, maybe your path doesn't look exactly
like Buddha's story. That's OK. He's the only Buddha to look exactly
like that, and you're the only Buddha to look exactly like that, and
you're the only Buddha to look exactly like that, and your journey is
the only journey to look exactly like that.
There's a wonderful sutra, which I think I may have read a few months
ago, but I'd like to read it again tonight, that expresses this
beautiful truth so clearly, I think. I heard these words of the
Buddha one time when the Awakened One was living in the vicinity of
[Savati] at the [Anika Pindika] Monastery in the Jetta Grove. Late at
night, a luminous being appeared whose light made the whole Jetta
Grove shine radiantly. After paying respects to the Buddha, she asked
him a question in the form of a poem. Many great beings and humans
are eager to know, what are the greatest blessings which can bring
about a peaceful and happy life? Please, Awakened One, will you teach
us?
This is the Buddha's answer: not to be associated with the foolish
ones, to live in the company of wise people, honoring those who are
worth honoring, this is the greatest happiness. To live in a good
environment, to have planted good seeds and to realize that you are on
the right path, this is the greatest happiness. To have a chance to
learn and grow, to be skillful in your profession or craft, practicing
the precepts and loving speech, this is the greatest happiness. To be
able to serve and support your parents, to cherish your own family, to
have a vocation that brings you joy, this is the greatest happiness.
To live honestly, generous and giving, to offer support to relatives
and friends, living a life of blameless conduct, this is the greatest
happiness. To avoid unwholesome actions not caught by addictions and
to be diligent in doing good things, this is the greatest happiness.
To be humble and polite in manner, to be grateful and content with a
simple life, not missing the occasion to learn the dharma, this is the
greatest happiness. To persevere and be open to change, to have
regular contact with monks and nuns, and to fully participate in
dharma discussions, this is the greatest happiness. To live
diligently and attentively, to perceive the noble truths, and to
realize nirvana, this is the greatest happiness. To live in the world
with your heart undisturbed by the world, with all sorrows ended,
dwelling in peace, this is the greatest happiness. For he or she who
accomplishes this, unvanquished wherever she goes, always she is safe
and happy, for happiness lives within oneself.
I always find it interesting that instead of giving one answer, such
as to realize nirvana, this is the greatest happiness — that's
the classic answer. Nirvana means extinguishment, which means the
extinguishment of all suffering and ignorance and attachment and all
of that other stuff. To realize nirvana, this is the greatest
happiness of course, but why are all these other things also the
greatest happiness? You know, usually when you say greatest, it's
just one, right? But if you say many, there's — you have to
pick one out of those.
So, as I meditated on this sutra, I began to see that these ten
stanzas were almost like someone's progression on the path. You see?
And of course, ending in nirvana and all sorrows ended, dwelling in
peace, but beginning with, well, not to be associated with foolish
ones. You know, basically kind of pulling away from the negative
influences and just trying to hang around with good people. That's
kind of a good beginning for some people, and then it goes on and on,
you know, mindful, kind living, and then listening to the dharma and
hanging around with spiritual people, monks and nuns, having dharma
discussions, being in sangha probably.
To me it looked like a progression of someone's path, but here's the
point that the Buddha's making. Every part of that path, every leg of
that journey, is the greatest happiness if — if — instead
of rejecting it, instead of saying, "I don't like this phase in my
life. I wish I could be the mountain or the lake. I wish I could be
in the future already. I wish I could be like that person. I wish I
could already be a Buddha, a fully mature Buddha." Instead of doing
that, if you can just be right here and right now with whatever it is
this moment, this phase, this lifetime, this body, this mind, and just
do what is to be done in this phase. OK.
So, maybe you're not ready for two hours of meditation each day, but
maybe that's not what you're supposed to do in this particular phase.
Maybe this particular phase is not hanging around with the people that
keep making you drink too much or do things that are harmful for you.
Just kind of staying away from that crowd, going to 12-step meetings
or something, that is what you are called to do, and that is your
Buddha duty in this phase. Just do it, and do it with your whole
heart, knowing that that is enough for right now, and if you can do
that, that is the greatest happiness, just as much as the greatest
happiness of when, in the future, you realize perfect nirvana.
You see? This is the greatest happiness, right here, right now, to
appreciate the beauty of this crazy-looking body, the beauty of this
warped kind of mind, the drama of this particular phase of your life.
I had a dream a few weeks ago where I was sitting in church, and I was
meditating, and I asked God in the dream, "God, you who are the
expression of perfection, you create perfectly a perfect creation, and
I am your creation. I am your perfect creation. Why would you create
me as a perfect creation and then let me mess up so many times in my
life?" It just doesn't make any sense to me. And as I was meditating
in my dream, I heard the voice of God in my heart, and it said, "It's
because I have a sense of humor." I loved that answer. I really do
believe that was a divine dream. That is so perfect of an answer. I
love that. I think about that from time to time, if I'm taking myself
too seriously or if I'm judging myself too much or if I'm too critical
about where I'm at in my practice or my life.
And of course, as I've shared before, that reminds me of another dream
I had many years ago when I saw the Dalai Lama in Tibet in this dream.
I was in his monastery, and all these dignitaries were there, and we
were waiting for the Dalai Lama to appear, and so I was told to bow
all the way to the ground and not to look up until spoken to and not
to speak unless spoken to, all of that, and so the gong went off, and
everyone went to the floor, and I heard people coming in, and I
started getting nervous, and I started thinking, oh my gosh. I'm
wearing shorts and a T-shirt and all these monks and dignitaries and
high officials and government officials are here. What am I doing
here?
And then I thought, what if the Dalai Lama really is the incarnation
of a high bodhisattva, and he's developed through meditation practice
many psychic abilities, and he can read my mind, and he can listen to
me talking like this in my mind right now, and he can see how nervous
I am and that even though I'm trying to be spiritual and trying to
meditate, and I'm really not that great about it, and I think too much
about sex and blah, blah, blah. I'm like, oh my gosh. He's going to
see all of this. And I was so nervous and I began to sweat in the
dream. And all of a sudden, I felt something touch my head, and
liquid love poured through my body and washed away all of that into
just peace, and I dared to look up, and it was the Dalai Lama as a
five-year-old child, giggling, smiling, and he said, "Come. Play with
me."
And with those words, I heard the voice of the Buddha, the voice of
the divine, speak directly to me: "Come. Play with me." And my heart
was pierced, and I began to cry and sob with love and joy and relief
and laughter, so much so that I woke myself up because I was actually
crying in real life, not just in the dream, and that was such a
powerful breakthrough experience for me, and I still of course come to
places of judging myself and forgetting that I am a beautiful Buddha,
too — all of that — but when I do remember that dream,
when I can remember that dream, it helps me to relax and remember, I'm
just a baby Buddha.
The divine reality of the universe isn't judging me, isn't condemning
me, isn't saying to this baby Buddha, "Oh, goodness. They're wobbling
while they're trying to learn how to walk. How awful." No. Just
like you as a parent or an uncle or an aunt or big brother or big
sister, when you see a baby taking its first steps, and it falls, it's
so cute. And that's the way we are held by reality. When we think we
mess up, we're held in that love. We are so precious and cute, even
in our falls. Come. Play with me. It's because I have a sense of
humor. This is the greatest happiness.